Writer: Margret Goodwin
How to cope
At the moment people are putting me under a lot of pressure. Not only do they want a lot from me but they are also giving me so many messages that, half the time, I am not even sure what it is they actually want.
The last time I saw them, they said this. Then when I saw them yesterday, they said that! What do they want? What do they want from me?
Even if I bent over backwards, I probably would not satisfy them.
Wow! I can’t handle this.
Today is another day and they’re still wanting something from me.
Now, is the dilemma theirs or is it mine?
This morning I took a step back. I am looking at this slightly differently today.
From this vantage point I can see them, rather than me. I think I’m OK.
I think that they have the problem; it’s not really me.
If they were better managers and didn’t rely on others so much, maybe they would be in a better state and not be putting all this pressure on me. But that’s how they are. That’s what they do.
But do I have to take that? Not really.
I’m not getting mad now. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not blaming them for what they have been offloading onto me. No. I’m just looking at this from a different standpoint.
They are under stress. So they are desperately passing that stress on to me. It’s because they don’t know what to do with it, or how to get themselves out of their fix.
It is their problem. It is not my problem.
OO! Wow! Does that feel good? Yes, it does.
It is not my problem. It is their problem.
I can watch. I can sympathise. I can appreciate. I can see the beauty of all that is in front of me. I can see that they are having problems and that they are the ones who have the ability to take themselves out of that problem. It is theirs. They created it. And they are the ones to fix it.
It isn’t mine. Therefore I can’t fix it.
I’ll fix my problems.
I’ll leave them to fix theirs.
And I’ll look at the beauty behind it all.
Tomorrow we will both be able to see the beauty. Today, I’ll wish them well, and make my life a perfect work of art.
(Margaret Goodwin is a practitioner and teacher of Raja Yoga Meditation.
She can be contacted on blacktown@au.brahmakumaris.org)
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