The Serenity Prayer, which epitomizes the recovery movement—-“Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference” is thought one of the best taproots of modern psychology of Self Management.
Some things are within our control, and some things are not. It is only after you have faced up to this fundamental rule and learned to distinguish between what you can and can’t control that inner tranquility and outer effectiveness become possible.
Within our control are our own opinions, aspiration, desires and the things that repel us. These areas are quite rightly our concern, because they are directly subject to our influence. We always have a choice about contents and character of our inner life.
Outside our control ,however, are such things as what kind of body we have ,whether we are born into wealth or strike it rich, how we are regarded by others, and our status in society. We must remember that those things are externals and are therefore not our concern. Trying to control or to change what we can’t only results in torment.
Remember, the things within our powers are naturally at our disposal, free from any restraint or hindrance.
But Those things outside our power are weak, dependent or determined by the whims and actions of other.
Remember ,too, that if you think that you have free rein over things that are naturally beyond your control, or if you attempt to adopt the affairs of others as your own, your pursuit will be thwarted and you will become a frustrating ,anxious and fault -finding person.
So, Better To Know, What you Can Control And What you Can’t.
By : Jawahar Gupta